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By Srishti Sarraf

INTRODUCTION

Girls wear pink, boys wear blue. Girls wear dresses, boys wear suits.

Above is the cliché that each one of us has mandatorily heard several times in our lifespan. There is no doubt that the dress we wear is layered with many gender-specific meanings and it is disheartening to note that like every other thing even our apparels are categorically stereotyped as traditional masculine and traditional feminine. However, this was not the case from the very beginning and again in recent times, we as a society have realized that gender identity isn’t just restricted to a black and white concept and the same goes for apparel & fashion. In an academic paper, Eicher and Roach aptly pointed out that “dress is both a repository of meanings regarding gender roles and a vehicle for perpetuating or rendering changes in gender roles.” It is true that in this twentieth-century people no more necessarily associate pantsuits with men and high-heels with women but have you ever wondered if this was the trend from time immemorial or it is just a recent development? Also, how far fashion has been a catalyst for bringing social change discarding this toxic rationality of stereotyping apparel on the ground of gender is an important question to ponder upon. 

APPARELS & GENDER STEREOTYPES: THE CONNECTION 

Gender stereotypes are rigid ideas about the behaviour and roles of men and women in society. Similarly, ‘Traditional masculinity’ and ‘traditional femininity’ are defined as relatively enduring characteristics encompassing traits, appearances, interests, and behaviours that have traditionally been considered relatively more typical of women and men, respectively. The attributes aligned with masculinity and femininity are socially constructed; they are neither set in stone nor based on any scientific foundation. They are created through cultural norms and are based on tradition. Probably this is why the girls’ aisle is often awash in pastels, sequins, unicorns, and princesses on one hand and the boys’ aisle is grounded in blues, greens, dinosaurs, and trucks on the other hand. This confirms that the clothes we wear have the politics of gender, privilege and class associated with it. And while it’s safe to say that gendering clothing is arbitrary on the want of any logical justification, it’s a trend people never seemed to shake. This is probably because the peculiar quality of tradition lies in the fact that they are extremely hard to break or change or even question. Nevertheless, it is indispensable for societal growth to have a discussion over them and change them if required. Particularly in the context of clothing, we must acknowledge that when one’s choice for apparel is denied by social structures, customs and deeply entrenched class hierarchies, in essence, it is our autonomy and individuality that is denied.

A LOOK BACK IN TIME

Historically it was presumed that female clothing has been designed to be more decorative than functional. Dresses, jewellery, and makeup have been classified as solely feminine, and suits and shirts as masculine exclusively. Pockets were absent from female clothing because the male counterparts were expected to carry money and belongings. Trousers are another great example of such notions as were considered a male-only garment until the turn of the last century. 

However, this was not the case since the inception of society. One would be amazed to note that the notion that blue is for baby boys and pink for baby girls has not always been the case. Paoletti and Kregloh (1989) discussed how the colour “rule” in 1918 was pink for the boy and blue for the girl as then the colour pink was interpreted as stronger and more assertive and blue as more dainty and delicate. However, this colour preference notion was reversed After World War II. Also, during the early 1700s, it was normal for men to wear high-heeled shoes with silk stockings, while long-haired wigs were customary among wealthy men. Research shows that the earliest cultures simply regarded cross-dressing as one variation in human behaviour, whereas men and women belonging to indigenous tribes often dressed the same. In fact, at times, skirts were worn by both men and women in many of humanity’s most ancient civilizations because of being cost-effective & comfortable. 

Clothing was initially shaped in organic ways keeping in mind the functional aspect of the same. The gender rules of clothing then transformed after the Middle Ages, when people went from rocking tunics to caring about the aesthetics of their outfits. The Victorians amped up gender distinctions from simply being the difference in hemlines, men’s tunics were traditionally knee-length and women’s to the floor, to assigning gender stereotypes to specific pieces of clothing. Men were seen as serious, sober breadwinners so they wore classic three-piece suits. Women, on the other hand, were regarded as frivolous, superficial and silly so they wore flouncy and embellished dresses. 

CHANGING TREND 

In today’s world, the stereotyped apparels lines are getting blurrier and blurrier and the dated hetero-normative approach to fashion is slowly changing and a more inclusive, gender-fluid ideology is taking its place. The demand for genderless fashion is increasing. A notable academic paper titled, ‘Deconstruction of Gender Stereotypes through Fashion,’ points out that “…today’s fashion revolutionaries are not interested in feminizing men or emasculating women. Fashion wants to eliminate those labels. This means fashion wants to deconstruct gender stereotypes in the context of wearing styles. Also, this means that the fashion is aiming to blur the masculine/feminine divide because of an idea which argues that garments have no gender.” Brands like Telfar, GucciHarris ReedNicopanda and Rad Hourani are already making non-conformist fashion mainstream. Besides, fashion shows are also playing catch-up as they slowly adapt to showing a gender-fluid format. The contribution of renowned men in the spotlight like singer Harry Styles, musician Jaden Smith, actor Billy Porter & Ranveer Singh embracing pieces of androgynous clothing should not be overlooked. On one occasion, Nick Paget, senior analyst at World Global Style Network, tells “the notion that clothing as an expression of our personality belongs to one gender or another is the social construct that needs disassembling.” 

EPILOGUE

There could be no denial that apparel has turned into the means to showcase fashion sense now for the sole reason to promote individuality. It encourages one to make style choices that work for one instead of following trends. It is bi-dimensional with the need to be independent and free of societal expectations. And when society perpetuates the idea that fashion is gendered, it ultimately only hinders one’s ability to not only develop one’s style but also the ability to genuinely show who one is. Thus, it is pertinent to allow anyone, regardless of their gender, to be free to wear what one wants to wear. These days fashion taking up the mantle to dispel the outdated toxic rationality and help people embrace styles that dispel gender stereotypes. Thus, it can be safely concluded that ‘gender is no longer just limited to male and female — or pink and blue — but is now a spectrum of non-conforming identities and fashion is beginning to reflect that.’

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By Moesha Jain

‘And They Lived Happily Ever After’

From a young age, women all over the world are embedded with the idea that true happiness for them, and the highest form of pride for their families, can only be achieved in one way- by getting married. With the cultural change, even in more educationally developed households, marriage is usually seen as an indisposable concept regardless of the individual’s wishes. Marriage transitioned quickly from being a concept about lifelong affection and partnership to a necessity that transitioned the way women were to imagine their lives ahead. The generic stereotypes of marriage are a whole new conversation, however, it’s frightening to see how the marital inequality starts long before marriage itself.

It’s not just the ethical and moral conundrums of gender roles in a marriage it’s also the preceding financials of the event itself. On average a marriage, excluding the life ahead, costs 8-10 lakhs in India and although the society as a whole feigns social equality, the bride’s parents are expected to pay for this event unless said otherwise.

Welcoming someone new to your family is not a minor event, however, it gets a little concerning when you’re willing to spend years of hard-earned money into getting a loan for this. Many families even prioritize their daughter’s marital finances over their potential educational needs.
But where does this need to spend extensively on marriages rise from?

Cinematic Propaganda

The 90’s witnessed a cultural change with the upcoming films portraying luxuriously spending on weddings as a sign of good family ethics and an absolute necessity, With films glorifying marriage and showing it in the light of something that needs to be extensive, bulky, and immensely expensive in order to be happy- people sought to keep up with the changing times with investing more and more of their finances into the scam.

On-screen and off-screen, celebrities involuntarily influence a generation of people to believe that their personal decisions are the best ones, perhaps in an attempt to adapt to this better way of living a huge amount of people go through the economic burdens of spending on a product that’s usually not better in terms of quality but marketing.

The Business

It all boils down to the simple constraint of capitalism wherein the profiting parties would have you believe that undesirable goals were a necessity.

Clothing designers, event managers, paid matchmakers – it’s a business that thrives on the news to establish your love for your children through grand financial gestures, even if it breaks down a healthy way of living. It’s 2021 and it’s about time we acknowledge how unreasonable the expenditure over marriage can be, it’s about time we invest those resources into more fruitful aspects of our lives.

Afterall a wedding is the celebration of a lifelong bond and if the happiness a person finds in their partner doesn’t exceed the happiness of the Sabyasachi lehenga, the concept is worth questioning.

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राजेश ओ.पी.सिंह

आज पूरे विश्व को एक ग्लोबल गांव की संज्ञा दी जाने लगी है अर्थात वैश्वीकरण से सारा विश्व आपस में जुड़ गया है, देशों के बीच कोई रुकावटें नहीं रही हैं, सभी देश आपस में व्यापार व अन्य संधियां कर रहे हैं और तो और इस दौर में बांग्लादेश जैसे तीसरी दुनिया के देश भी विश्व मानचित्र पर अपनी उपस्थिति दर्ज करा पाने में सफल हो रहे हैं। परन्तु वैश्वीकरण व विकास के इस दौर में भी पुरुष – महिला के बीच का भेद अभी भी जैसे का तैसा बना हुआ है और ये कम होने की बजाए ज्यादा हो रहा है।

वैश्वीकरण के इस दौर में भी समाज और परिवार चाहता है कि लड़कियां शादी करें ही करें क्योंकि आज भी समाज अकेली महिला या लड़की को स्वीकार नहीं कर पा रहा है। 

शादी को प्रत्येक लड़की के जीवन का सबसे अहम संस्थान बना दिया है, वहीं यदि लड़के शादी ना करे तो कोई परेशानी नहीं होती , ना समाज को और ना ही परिवार को।

शादी ना करने वाली लड़की पर तथाकथित समाज ,परिवार व रिश्तेदार आदि ना जाने क्या क्या तंज कसते है, संस्कृति व धर्म का दबाव बनाते है, उसे महसूस करवाने की कोशिश की जाती है कि स्त्री के सिर पर पुरुष का साया होना कितना आवश्यक है, कितने ही ऐसे काम बता दिए जाते है जो बिना पुरुष के अकेली लड़की नहीं कर सकती, बार बार उसका नाम किसी भी पुरुष या लड़के के साथ जोड़ा जाता है और उसे अपमानित करने का प्रयास किया जाता है। अर्थात एक महिला को अपने हिसाब से अपनी मर्ज़ी से रहने का कोई अवसर या हक नहीं दिया जाता I उसे प्रचलित परम्पराओं के आधार पर ही जीवन जीने के लिए मजबूर किया जाता है। यदि हम तुलना करें तो पाएंगे कि 100 लड़कों को तुलना में केवल 3-4 लड़कियां ही है जो बिना शादी के रह पाने में सफल होती हैं और ये भी केवल देश के महानगरों में संभव है।

हालांकि हम देखते हैं कि इंग्लैंड के बुद्धिजीवी “जॉन स्टुअर्ट मिल” ने 1869 में लिखी अपनी पुस्तक ‘द सब्जेक्शन ऑफ वूमेन’ में लिखा कि “आज के युग में विवाह ही एकमात्र ऐसा क्षेत्र है जहां दास प्रथा अब भी मौजूद है। हमारे विवाह कानून के माध्यम से पुरुष एक मनुष्य के उपर पूरा अधिकार प्राप्त करते हैं। हासिल करते हैं मालिकाना हक और हुकूमत। हासिल करते हैं तलाक और बहुविवाह जैसी अश्लीलता की पूरी छूट।” इतने वर्षों पूर्व में ये कहा गया परन्तु भारत में स्थिति आज भी जस की तस बनी हुई है।

और लड़की की समस्याएं शादी करने तक नहीं बल्कि शादी के बाद और ज्यादा बढ़ जाती हैं I जैसे हम देखें की लड़का और लड़की दोनों शादी के बाद नौकरी करते हैं और यदि किन्हीं कारणों से लड़के का तबादला किसी दूसरी जगह हो जाए तो पूरा परिवार, रिश्तेदार और तथाकथित समाज ये आशा करता है कि उसकी पत्नी भी उसके साथ नई जगह पर जाएगी, ताकि उस लड़के को वहां पर कोई परेशानी ना झेलनी पड़े, परेशानी मुख्यत घर संभालने की, खाना बनाने की, सफाई करने की आदि। और इसके लिए यदि उस नौकरी भी छोड़नी पड़े तो छोड़ दे। इस प्रकार पति को समस्यायों से बचाने के लिए पत्नी को समस्याओं में डाल दिया जाता है,  बिना उसकी रजामंदी के।

वहीं यदि इसका उल्टा हो जाए कि पत्नी का तबादला कहीं नई जगह पर हो जाए तो लगभग 100 फीसदी मामलों में उसका पति उसके साथ नहीं जाता, नौकरी छोड़ना तो बहुत दूर की बात। इस पर लड़की को समझाया जाता है कि यदि तुम नौकरी के लिए चली जाओगी तो यहां तुम्हारे पति को तुम्हारे बिना समस्याओं का सामना करना पड़ेगा। इसलिए तुम नौकरी छोड़ दो और यहीं रहो। दोनों ही मामलों में नुकसान लड़की को ही उठाना पड़ रहा है।

इस से हम देख सकते हैं कि आज भी समाज स्त्रियों को पुरुषों की परेशानियां दूर करने का केवल यंत्र मात्र मानता है।

आजकल तलाक और शादी टूटने की संख्या बढ़ रही है, क्यूंकि आजकल पढ़ी लिखी नौकरी करने वाली महिलाओं ने मौजूदा रूढ़िवादी व्यवस्था कि चुनौती देना शुरू कर दिया है, महिलाओं में इच्छाएं जागृत होने लगी है कि वो भी किसी रविवार को सुबह आराम से उठे, पूरा दिन आराम करे, अखबार पढ़े और उनके पति घर के सारे काम करे, परन्तु महिलाओं की ऐसी इच्छाओं से पुरुषों को परेशानी हो रही है इसलिए उनके पास एक ही विकल्प बचता है कि जब काम खुद ही करना है तो फिर इसके साथ रहना ही क्यों है।

परन्तु पुरुष ये नहीं देखते कि जब पुरुष और महिला दोनों नौकरी करते हैं तब महिला को नौकरी के साथ साथ घर के कार्य भी करने पड़ते है इसलिए उस पर काम करने की दोहरी जिम्मेवारी और भार आ जाता है और जब कभी भी वह अपना भार कम करने कि सोचती है तब उसे तलाक जैसी धमकियां मिलती हैं, तलाकशुदा महिला को समाज में अपमानित नज़रों से देखा जाता है, जगहों जगहों पर तरह तरह की मनगढ़ंत बातें घड़ी जाती है और उसके चरित्र पर टिका टिप्पणी की जाती है। परन्तु इस सबके बावजूद अब महिलाओं ने अपने हकों के लिए बोलना शुरू कर दिया है बिना इसकी परवाह किए की समाज क्या कहेगा।

समाज और परिवारों की ऐसी संकीर्ण सोच के चलते देश का पूर्ण रूप से विकास नहीं हो पाता क्योंकि इससे आधी आबादी को वर्जित किया जा रहा है। यदि कोई समाज या देश पूर्ण रूप से विकसित होना चाहता है तो आवश्यक है कि महिलाओं को जीवन के हर स्तर पर सहयोग किया जाए और जीवन के प्रत्येक क्षेत्र में उन्हें उनकी भागीदारी दी जाए।

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